For about the last month, my son has been acting up in school and at home. It has not been as bad as it normally is but it is still enough to get him into a little trouble at school. I finally had to sit down the other day and try to figure out what may be going on with him and why he is acting out.
What I have come to realize is that recently, neither I nor my better half has had as much time as normal to spend with him. He has gotten used to me being home when he gets home and around him to play or what ever all of the time. With me working and Jas busy, I think that he is feeling a little alone. There are other signs that are leaning toward this conclusion but nothing that is appropriate to discuss online.
I am torn between feeling really bad about not being able to be there for my son as much as I would like or as much as he seems to be needing lately, and being responsible in this time of need that our family is going through. It really makes me feel bad to have to punish him for acting up when I know that he is just doing it to get some attention, even though it is bad attention. On the other hand, I have to be the parent and do what is right in teaching him that this behavior is not appropriate.
On the other end of family in dismay, my husband is starting to feel the effects of being laid off, and is getting depressed, I am not sure how to comfort him. I have tried to reassure him that we are in this together and that all does not lye on his shoulders and that everything will be ok, but it does not seem to be helping him out much. I pains me to see him looking so upset and to know that there is nothing more that I can do to ease him other than to keep reassuring him that all will work out in the end.
There are many families in this world that are going through the exact same things that we are at this moment, I do not feel alone in my struggles, but, sometimes do find myself asking or even praying for an answer or some sort of comfort in this time of need.
I understand where you are coming from, sort of. My husband was laid off about two months ago. The timing couldn’t have been worse in his eyes since I was at the time only a month away from giving birth to our first child. I tried to help him realize at the time that it was a blessing so he could be home to help me with the baby, as well as allowing him to have more time to bond with her. He has always been the hard working type and its starting to get to him now, he’s never been out of work in his life before. Every time we go to buy diapers or something he makes comments about not feeling like he’s supporting his family. I will do for you what I am doing for him…praying for your peace of mind and God’s guidance in your life.
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