Have you ever tried to quite doing something that you seem to have always done? Well, I am, or was, trying to quite smoking. I have been smoking for about 17 years. I had made it through the first 4 days and was doing fairly well when we had family over for St. Patty's Day.
Everyone in our family smokes, which is hard enough all by itself, but, to have someone in the family buy a pack of cigarettes and say that they bought them for you and pretty much force them on you so that they have someone to smoke with, knowing that you are trying to quite, just really sucks. I kept telling them that they bought the darn things and that they needed to smoke them, that did not go over so well.
I finally gave in a smoked a cigarette, then another and another. Before I knew it the pack was gone and they were off buying more. This time they actually left the pack of cigarettes at my house when they left and now I am smoking again.
I can not seem to make them all realize, even my husband, that I want to quite and that smoking in front of me and purchasing them for me is not helping me at all. In fact, all it is doing is actually keeping me from quitting.
I don't want to be rude to me family, but I am not sure how to make them stop and realize that I am truly wanting to quite and that they need to stop pushing and stop smoking in front of me. I'm not talking about within eye sight, I'm talking about sitting right next to me one the couch. It is just making it very difficult and I am not sure how to solve this issue. Does anyone have any suggestions? All are welcome!
fist off no offense but your family is rude. I smoke and when I do go to quit I hope that my family doesn't do that to me. I wish I knew how to help you to make them realize they are only helping to harm you by doing these things but I wouldn't have a clue.
ReplyDeleteBut I hope that you are able to quit, and hopefully your family will realize this and stand behind you on your decision. Again good luck!
A lot of the worst part of quitting is that hand-to-mouth habit. Maybe start trying to switch a cigarette for a straw or a pen or something, to try to help. Others have switched them for the little Dum Dum suckers, but you just know the anti-food-nannies would be horrified that a *teacher* would suggest such an *unhealthy habit*!!!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, other than that, my only advice is to tell your family that you're quitting, and that means you're no one's smoking buddy. Be as harsh as you need to be to get the point across. Yeah, I know it doesn't seem right to tell family off, but this is your health you're fighting for, and your kids are going to want you around for a long time.
Thank you both for your feedback, I had not really thought about being rude, but I guess that it has about come to that point.
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